5 Weeks Old

Every day I tell myself that I'm going to sit down and write a post but then the day slips away without a moment of free time. I really do hope I manage to find the time more regularly now b/c I know these weeks/months will just fly by and I'd like to record some of what's going on before its just a blur.

Each time I look at one of my boys I can hardly believe they're mine. It still seems surreal at times. My heart is so full. You never realize just how much and how fully you can truly love someone until you hold your baby in your ams. At that moment you know you'll do absolutely anything for that child to ensure their happiness and safety.

Andrew came home after 8 days in the NICU. It was tough having him there and I'm so thankful that he wasn't there longer than he was. He's doing great and we haven't had any issues since he's been home other than the fact that he's pretty fussy. I'm not sure if it's colic or what but there are times he just won't settle down even after a feeding, good burps and a diaper change. This makes for some rough nights. We recently started giving them gas drops after their nighttime feedings to see if it helps any. It seems like it may be helping a little but its still too soon to really know. Andrew is the noisier of the two. He makes so many noises constantly. He grunts, moans, cries and makes the funniest animal sounds. He sounds like a kitten and other times we have a billy goat, an elephant, a monkey and various other animal like sounds going on. I feel like we're in the middle of a zoo at times. Andrew also makes more animated faces. He loves to stick his tongue out and gets crazy excited when his pacifier or a nipple gets near his mouth. He'll thrash his head from side to side and look like he's going to swallow and gobble it down whole. I get a little nervous when I first place him on the breast b/c he's pretty aggressive and excited when he first starts feeding. But for all of his efforts he's not the best on the breast. He gulps a lot of air and at times seems like he's not sure what to do. He'll all over the place and will stay on the breast for a while but I think 50% of the time he's just using me as a pacifier. And once he's done he'll be hungry again in an hour so I know he's not getting full. But we're working on it and hopefully this will continue to get better and easier. I'm sure some of the difficulties result from him being in the NICU and being put on a bottle right away and not getting the chance to try breastfeeding for almost a week.

Matthew on the other hand doesn't differ all that much from Andrew. He's just less dramatic. He'll scream and find his lungs when he's hungry but once fed he'll usually be content. He's really easy to breastfeed for the most part. He latched on well from day one and has a very efficient suck so he stays satisfied for much longer. Right now I'm trying to breastfeed on the breast during the day and I'm pumping and feeding by bottle at night. Night time is really tough and I still don't know what would be the best routine for us. I pump b/c they go much longer after having a full bottle. They're eating 4 ounces each of breast milk by bottle and will go about 4 hours between feedings when fed that way. They only go 1 to 2.5 hours during the day when they're on the actual breast. By the time both are fed, burped and diapered it's basically time to start the process all over again. The problem with pumping is that it takes me forever to pump. I have the Madela Pump in Style Advanced Breast Pump which allows for both breasts to be pumped simultaneously but I find that doesn't work well for me b/c I get a lot more milk if I massage my breasts while pumping. So I only pump one breast at a time. I basically find that I have to manipulate and squeeze my breast while pumping or the milk supply will slow down or stop. I'm able to to get most if not all of the milk I need by doing this but it can take 45+ minutes and that is not fun in the middle of the night. I'm not sure whats going on with this. Maybe I should see a lactation specialist b/c I think I have a decent milk supply but I have no idea why the pump doesn't work like it should for me. Has anyone else experienced such difficulties? I know that I have to really focus on drinking tons of water and I'm trying to eat more b/c I notice a direct correlation to how much milk I produce. All I know is it's totally exhausting to pump for so long and I really dread it at times. Sometimes I wonder if it would just be better and maybe faster to breastfeed at night instead of pump but J feeds one while I feed the other when we use the bottles so that cuts out some time. I'm not sure. Night are really hard though. I'm just soooo tired. Really tired! At this point even with them going 4 to 4.5 hours at night with the bottles...by the time you take away pumping time, feeding time, burping and diapering time I'm only left with a little over 2 hours max to sleep between feedings and that's only true if they fall right asleep which never happens. So when can I expect them to sleep through the entire night?

Back to Matthew- He looks very serious at times. He'll scrunch up his face and look all worried about something. He was so small when we brought him home and he's eating up a storm. He weighed 5 pounds 1 ounce at birth and lost some weight so he dropped down to 4 pounds 9 ounces and now at 5 weeks he's basically 7 pounds. He used to be a full pound behind his brother and now there is only a half pound difference. It seems like they're already so much bigger. It's hard to believe that its already been 5 weeks. It seems like I just delivered them a few days ago.

At this point I think Andrew looks just like J and I think Matthew resembles me or my side of the family more.

J took 5 weeks off to be home with us and he'll be going back to work on Monday. So I'll be on my own from here on out. Thankfully I have my Mom coming to visit for a few days to help me transition to doing everything on my own. I'm mostly nervous about being exhausted and how I'll cope if I'm too tired. J won't be able to help as much at night since he'll have to function at work and the naps I catch once in a while during the day while J takes over will be coming to an end.


Here are some pictures. Enjoy.




Matthew and Andrew 1 week old




Andrew and Matthew 1 week old



Matthew and Andrew 3 Weeks old



Matthew and Andrew